Moses Bulamu
Three years back, I decided to go out solo to a social happening place. I was there to talk to ‘me’. I needed to encourage myself and challenge myself. It was time to rebuke me and do an accountability of me as a man, a father, and a husband. So, I sat down after ordering for a cold Coca-Cola and a glass full of ice cubes.
A few meters from me,were three men probably in their early forties. These guys were doing what men do,when they meet. They spoke loudly,they whispered ,they slapped each other on the back. And they laughed so hard.
Their laughter was simply infectious. I took in every moment and smiled. As I settled to write down my thoughts, another tremor of laughter hit the trio. They had been whispering for a while when they suddenly erupted into laughter. This time round they seemed not to stop till one of them fell of the chair!
Today,I have walked memory lane to that incident and my mind retrieved all the details like it was happening again before my eyes! I trust am wiser than then,but deep inside my heart there is a boy who resonates with those men. With that incident.
It’s true that men need the security of other men they refer to as ‘boys’. Men need boys that will look them in the eye without judgement but with a firm boyish ” take it all rebuke” men need an avenue of vulnerability. Finally men need ” me” time.
The challenges of life lend us a secret place that makes society believe that behind a tough face and a clean tie,there is a strong man!- question is,what if there wasn’t? What if what society gets to see is the icing on the cake when there is no cake!
In addition,every man should have their “boys”- those guys you knew before you made it big in life. Those boys you were naughty with,so naughty that a mere look at eachother starts a laugh. Do you have them boys with you? If not,find them!
It’s Mental health month. Make it count
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